{"id":1566,"date":"2022-05-27T09:23:24","date_gmt":"2022-05-27T09:23:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.stmonicalt.edu.hk\/%e8%b2%ac%e7%bd%b5%e7%84%a1%e5%8a%a9%e8%a7%a3%e6%b1%ba%e5%95%8f%e9%a1%8c-%e6%84%9b%e7%9a%84%e8%aa%9e%e8%a8%80%e5%8a%a9%e5%ae%b6%e5%ba%ad%e5%92%8c%e8%ab%a7%e5%b9%b8%e7%a6%8f\/"},"modified":"2023-04-01T13:02:27","modified_gmt":"2023-04-01T13:02:27","slug":"self-protection-mechanism-of-children","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.stmonicalt.edu.hk\/en\/self-protection-mechanism-of-children\/","title":{"rendered":"Self-protection mechanism of children"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"1566\" class=\"elementor elementor-1566 elementor-436\" data-elementor-post-type=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-21d03fc elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"21d03fc\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-82fb61b\" data-id=\"82fb61b\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-633e438 elementor-widget elementor-widget-wp-widget-rev-slider-widget\" data-id=\"633e438\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"wp-widget-rev-slider-widget.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t<p class=\"rs-p-wp-fix\"><\/p>\n\t\t\t\t<sr7-module data-alias=\"inner\" data-id=\"2\" id=\"SR7_2_1\" data-version=\"7.0.8\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<sr7-adjuster><\/sr7-adjuster>\n\t\t\t\t\t<sr7-content>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<sr7-slide id=\"SR7_2_1-3\" data-key=\"3\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<sr7-bg id=\"SR7_2_1-3-2\" class=\"sr7-layer\"><noscript><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.stmonicalt.edu.hk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/sidetop-\u5927.png\" alt=\"\" title=\"sidetop (\u5927)\"><\/noscript><\/sr7-bg>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<sr7-txt id=\"SR7_2_1-3-1\" class=\"sr7-layer\" srscsrc>Self-protection mechanism of children<\/sr7-txt>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/sr7-slide>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<sr7-slide id=\"SR7_2_1-10\" data-key=\"10\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/sr7-slide>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/sr7-content>\n\t\t\t\t\t<image_lists style=\"display:none\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<img data-src=\"\/\/www.stmonicalt.edu.hk\/wp-content\/uploads\/revslider\/o\/2\/5bdde93269a134980827c42f36da18d1.webp\" data-libid=\"2876\" data-lib=\"medialibrary\" title=\"sidetop (\u5927)\" width=\"0\" height=\"0\" data-dbsrc=\"Ly93d3cuc3Rtb25pY2FsdC5lZHUuaGsvd3AtY29udGVudC91cGxvYWRzLzIwMjIvMTEvc2lkZXRvcC3lpKcucG5n\"\/>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/image_lists>\n\t\t\t\t<\/sr7-module>\n\t\t\t\t<script>\n\t\t\t\t\twindow.SR7??={}; 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text-align: justify; font-weight: var( --e-global-typography-text-font-weight ); letter-spacing: -0.015em;\">Written by: Psychotherapist Lee Wai-Tong, Unleashing Mind<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: inherit; text-align: justify; font-weight: var( --e-global-typography-text-font-weight ); letter-spacing: -0.015em;\"><\/span><span style=\"font-size: inherit; text-align: justify; font-weight: var( --e-global-typography-text-font-weight ); letter-spacing: -0.015em;\">Professional&nbsp; Counselling Academy<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"background-color: transparent; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; font-size: 14pt; white-space: pre-wrap; text-align: justify; letter-spacing: -0.015em;\">One day, a colleague told me that he\/she had received a call from a mother who was anxious to bring her son to see me. On the phone, I learned that the boy had pointed a knife at his neck several times in the past month, threatening his mother to give her change to buy snacks, or else he would stab himself in the neck. The mother, on one hand, of course, was surprised at her son&#8217;s behavior, and on the other hand, worried that he might stab himself accidentally, so she had to give him money. But the boy did the same thing many times afterwards, which made the mother feel distressed.<\/span><\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"line-height: 1.2; text-align: justify; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;\"><span style=\"font-size: 13.999999999999998pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;\">The first time I had a play therapy session with the boy, he entered the playroom, sat down on a chair and looked at me with a smile on his face, so I invited him to choose the toys in the room: &#8220;You can choose any toy and play with it in your own way. The boy looked at me and said, &#8220;Really? I responded again, &#8220;You can choose any toy and play with it the way you want. So the boy stood up, swept all the toys on the table to the floor, and looked at me with a smile.<\/span><\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"line-height: 1.2; text-align: justify; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;\"><span style=\"font-size: 13.999999999999998pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;\"><br><\/span><\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"line-height:1.2;text-align: justify;margin-top:0pt;margin-bottom:0pt;\"><span style=\"font-size:13.999999999999998pt;font-family:'Times New Roman';color:#000000;background-color:transparent;font-weight:400;font-style:normal;font-variant:normal;text-decoration:none;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre;white-space:pre-wrap;\">At this point, I was thinking that this was the first time I met with the boy and he responded in such a way, so I could imagine that he had a lot of anger in his heart, but he had suppressed it for some time, so now he let it out in this way.<\/span><\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"line-height: 1.2; text-align: justify; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;\"><span style=\"font-size: 13.999999999999998pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;\"><br><\/span><\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"line-height:1.2;text-align: justify;margin-top:0pt;margin-bottom:0pt;\"><span style=\"font-size:13.999999999999998pt;font-family:'Times New Roman';color:#000000;background-color:transparent;font-weight:400;font-style:normal;font-variant:normal;text-decoration:none;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre;white-space:pre-wrap;\">Later, I used games and creative psychotherapy to allow him to slowly express his inner feelings of dissatisfaction with his parents, for example, his father blamed the boy for breaking the computer for no reason, but in fact it was his brother who did it; when the boy did something wrong, his mother beat him with a coat hanger &#8230;&#8230; When his emotions were released, the boy did not do these behaviors anymore. And he also became cheerful.<\/span><\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"line-height:1.2;text-align: justify;margin-top:0pt;margin-bottom:0pt;\"><span style=\"font-size:13.999999999999998pt;font-family:'Times New Roman';color:#000000;background-color:transparent;font-weight:400;font-style:normal;font-variant:normal;text-decoration:none;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre;white-space:pre-wrap;\"><br><\/span><\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"line-height:1.2;text-align: justify;margin-top:0pt;margin-bottom:0pt;\"><span style=\"font-size:13.999999999999998pt;font-family:'Times New Roman';color:#000000;background-color:transparent;font-weight:400;font-style:normal;font-variant:normal;text-decoration:none;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre;white-space:pre-wrap;\"><span id=\"docs-internal-guid-9729fe80-7fff-10d4-ea49-bc660c9727e6\"><\/span><\/span><\/p><p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"line-height:1.2;text-align: justify;margin-top:0pt;margin-bottom:0pt;\"><span style=\"font-size:13.999999999999998pt;font-family:'Times New Roman';color:#000000;background-color:transparent;font-weight:400;font-style:normal;font-variant:normal;text-decoration:none;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre;white-space:pre-wrap;\">Children need the protection and love of their parents as they grow up. But if a parent causes harm to a child and does not deal with it properly, what the child can do is to use his or her limited ability to protect himself or herself, such as becoming rebellious, silent, or telling lie. We all understand that parenting is not perfect and it is normal to misunderstand and blame our children sometimes. 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